Second, some random thoughts:

*A true apology needs to acknowledge, if only implicitly, that the act of apology doesn’t entitle one to forgiveness. An apology may be sincerely offered, but the victim retains the prerogative not to forgive. Call this “apology as guilt”

*Apologies–whether “true” or not, or “sincere” or not–also play a public role. It’s a performance that acknowledges that the apologized-for behavior is not (or no longer) acceptable. (Even though sincerity or trueness is not necessarily in play, it has to be a “real” apology and not a non-apology apology of the “if I offended anyone….” trope we sometimes hear.) Call this “apology as shame.”

Again, while I know nothing of this particular milieu, I think you can frame the discussion that way. Whether D’Orazio forgives or not is up to her. Whether the apology is a sign of progress is something to be grokked by those in that comic book culture.

/my two cents