It’s one thing to have a hang-up and want to work it out in therapy and all that. If I know you and you’ve got that hang-up, I still think you’re a fine person, no judgement. But it’s another thing to publish in the NY Times a suggestion that there’s some kind of social problem, a group or class of issues that deserves some kind of structured sympathy. As a general response: suck it up, guys. Which does not cancel out my specific sympathy for some specific individual who may have a problem–but sympathy is not endorsement. It’s perfectly reasonable to expect that the norm should be to distinguish between your partner giving birth and your sexual desire for your partner, and that those who experience a moment of emotional vertigo should just get over it.